Unschooling memes for the week 16
So often, children are punished for being human. Children are not allowed to have grumpy moods, bad days, disrespectful tones, or bad attitudes, yet we adults have them all the time. None of us is perfect, and we must stop holding our children to a higher standard of perfection than we ourselves can attain. – Rebecca Eanes.
Our whole system of raising and educating children provides the power-hungry with a ready-made railway network that they can use to reach the destination of their choice. They need only to push the buttons parents and educators have already installed. – Alice Miller.
In our culture, children are forced through punishments and rewards to act in a manner that is easy for parents. Such coerced behavior meets the parents’ needs only. This models narcissism. Children learn what they live. Unschooling philosophy promotes respect and freedom towards children, which honors everyone in the family equally. This models altruism, kindness and understanding. What do your children live? – Dayna Martin.
If your parents measured you as a child, they had you stand against a wall, and made a little pencil mark on the wall to show your growth. They did not measure you against your brother, or neighbor’s kids, or kids on the tv. When you measure your growth, make sure to only measure your today self by your past self. If you compare your relationships, your success or your anything against anyone else, you are not being fair to you. Everyone has a different path, a different pace, and different challenges to face along the way. – Doe Zantamata.
If I demanded you give up your television to an anonymous, itinerant repairman who needed work you’d think I was crazy; if I came with a policeman who forced you to pay the repairman even after he broke your set, you would be outraged. Why are you giving up your when you give your child to a government agent called a schoolteacher? – John Taylor Gatto.
It is as true now as it was then that no matter what tests show, very little of what is taught in school is learned, very little of what is learned is remembered, and very little of what is remembered is used. The things we learn, remember and use are the things we seek out or meet in the daily, serious, nonschool of our lives. – John Holt.